(I'm gonna be really general about this and use the words 'we' and 'us' in place of 'I' and 'me' cause well.. I don't want to sound like a deranged psychotic clingy girl.)
The thing about humans in relationships is that, we tend to nitpick on every little upsetting detail, instead of taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture? We feel like they're short-changing us at every turn, at every little minute thing that goes wrong.
Like how we get upset when The Other Half cancels on us because they ran out of contacts and they're really vain. Or how they have a change of mind even though they so very clearly said that they would be spending the night. Or how they make plans without the courtesy of informing you first. How about that time they jokingly called us a bitch? And that night we spent at home sick and in pain and they were out having fun with their friends, rubbing it in our faces with their texts?
We don't think about the times they've called us beautiful even when we're crying with mascara running down our faces AND puking at the same time (amazing feat, I know. But even the best of us have gotten drunk and let our emotions take over control. What, YOU haven't?! Freak..) Or how they're willing to forfeit a night out with their friends because spending time with you at home cuddling over a movie is more meaningful. How they put up with the fact that you calling them a bitch would be one the nicest insults (in jest of course.) And how they came over and spent the entire day with you cause you swore you were dying and it turned out to just be the monthly cramps.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we humans tend to forget that we are in a relationship with another human too. A flawed person figuring their way through life, going through the very same shit that we go through. Those crappy days where you wake up and EVERY FUCKING THING goes wrong; having ridiculously bad mood swings and feeling like shouting at every other living thing including your rabbit, which probably doesn't understand what all that fuss you're making is about; lazy unmotivated alone days where you spend the entire time lying on your couch watching The Food Network Asia. They get them too.
So instead of blowing up at all the little things they said and did (or didn't), we could try to understand that love is very hard to come by these days. All people really seem to care about now is sex and booze and plastic boobs. And things as precious as waking up and smiling at the snoozing pig next to you, your heart skipping a beat when they kiss you on the forehead, sitting down at the void deck having a smoke and feeling like the most contented person on this planet - these are things worth fighting for. And more than that, it's worth letting go of all those petty little inconsequential missteps.
Of course, if everything that I've said do not relate to you, then my generalization is wrong and uncalled for. Bear in mind that if that's the case, it's all fictional and nothing is based on real life events. At all. I am NOT a deranged psychotic clingy bitch.
The thing about humans in relationships is that, we tend to nitpick on every little upsetting detail, instead of taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture? We feel like they're short-changing us at every turn, at every little minute thing that goes wrong.
Like how we get upset when The Other Half cancels on us because they ran out of contacts and they're really vain. Or how they have a change of mind even though they so very clearly said that they would be spending the night. Or how they make plans without the courtesy of informing you first. How about that time they jokingly called us a bitch? And that night we spent at home sick and in pain and they were out having fun with their friends, rubbing it in our faces with their texts?
We don't think about the times they've called us beautiful even when we're crying with mascara running down our faces AND puking at the same time (amazing feat, I know. But even the best of us have gotten drunk and let our emotions take over control. What, YOU haven't?! Freak..) Or how they're willing to forfeit a night out with their friends because spending time with you at home cuddling over a movie is more meaningful. How they put up with the fact that you calling them a bitch would be one the nicest insults (in jest of course.) And how they came over and spent the entire day with you cause you swore you were dying and it turned out to just be the monthly cramps.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that we humans tend to forget that we are in a relationship with another human too. A flawed person figuring their way through life, going through the very same shit that we go through. Those crappy days where you wake up and EVERY FUCKING THING goes wrong; having ridiculously bad mood swings and feeling like shouting at every other living thing including your rabbit, which probably doesn't understand what all that fuss you're making is about; lazy unmotivated alone days where you spend the entire time lying on your couch watching The Food Network Asia. They get them too.
So instead of blowing up at all the little things they said and did (or didn't), we could try to understand that love is very hard to come by these days. All people really seem to care about now is sex and booze and plastic boobs. And things as precious as waking up and smiling at the snoozing pig next to you, your heart skipping a beat when they kiss you on the forehead, sitting down at the void deck having a smoke and feeling like the most contented person on this planet - these are things worth fighting for. And more than that, it's worth letting go of all those petty little inconsequential missteps.
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6 comments:
wish thr was a like button to just like the post.
i love you:)
YAY!
so proud of you my sensible one.
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thought u can use 'we' as in the royal pronoun, my little princess.
as to the 'might or might not be the other half of "us"', glad u r the one.
I love this post. But we cannot help but get caught up with the details. It's just what we do...
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